What You Leave Behind

Most grandparents, if you ask them what they want to leave their grandchildren, will say something like: I want them to know they were loved.

Or: I want them to have faith. Or simply: I want my life to have mattered to them.

These aren't small wants. They're the deepest kind.

But a legacy of faith isn't something that just happens. It isn't the automatic result of being a good person or attending church or loving your family well.

It's something that has to be built — intentionally, consistently, over years and decades. And thankfully, Scripture shows us how.

Here's where to start.

Define What You Actually Want to Pass On

Before you can build a legacy, you have to know what you're building.

Most grandparents have never sat down and answered this question clearly: What specific beliefs, values, and practices do I most want my grandchildren to carry into their adult lives?

What does faith look like in your family? What stories define who you are? What do you believe about God, about people, about what makes a life worth living?

When you can answer those questions clearly, you can begin passing them on with intention — rather than hoping something absorbs along the way.

Consider writing it down. A personal statement of faith and values — even a single page — becomes a reference point for the stories you tell, the conversations you initiate, the traditions you create.

What do you want your grandchildren to say about you someday? Start there, and work backwards.

Legacy Is Built in Small Moments, Not Grand Ones

We tend to imagine legacy-building as dramatic: the deathbed conversation, the milestone birthday speech, the letter read at a graduation.

Those moments matter. But they're not where legacy is actually made.

Legacy is made in the ordinary. It's made in the prayer you offer before a meal, the way you talk about neighbors, the kindness you extend to a stranger.

It's made in the question you ask when you call. The interest you take in what they care about. The way you show up when it would have been easy not to.

Grandchildren are forming a picture of who you are from thousands of small observations. That picture — more than any single conversation — is what they'll carry with them.

This is both humbling and freeing. You don't need extraordinary moments. You need faithful ordinary ones.

Write It Down

One of the most underused legacy tools a grandparent has is a pen.

Letters. Cards. Notes tucked into a bag or left on a pillow. Written words carry a permanence that spoken words don't — they can be returned to, re-read, kept.

Long after you're gone, a grandchild reading a letter in your handwriting will hear your voice.

Consider writing:

• An annual birthday letter — what you love about who they're becoming, what you're praying for them in the year ahead
• A faith testimony — your own story of how you came to believe, in your own words
• Milestone letters — for graduations, weddings, the birth of their own children
• A legacy letter — capturing your values, your beliefs, and what you most hope for them

You don't need to be a writer. You just need to be honest. The words that matter most are the ones that sound like you.

Involve the Middle Generation

One of the most important — and most overlooked — components of grandparent legacy is the relationship with your adult children.

Your grandchildren's parents are the primary shapers of their world. If that relationship is strained, your access is limited. If it's strong, you become a consistent, trusted presence across generations.

Ask how you can serve them. Be a resource, not an added stress. Lead with grace where you disagree, and align where you can.

When grandparents and parents work together, the faith environment for grandchildren becomes immeasurably richer.

Resources to Help You Build with Intention

You don't have to figure this out alone. God has given us His Word — and a community of people who have walked this path before you.

Find guidance in A Grand Way to Live → A warm, practical guide covering faith, presence, prayer, and what it means to finish well. A strong starting point for grandparents who want to grandparent with more purpose.

Find guidance in the Grandparenting Matters Workbook → Walks grandparents through the biblical vision for their role — with practical strategies for leaving a faith legacy across every season of life. The companion Grandparenting Matters DVD brings the full seminar to your home or church group.

Find guidance in My Faith Stories → A guided 50-prompt journey that helps grandparents preserve their testimony in a professionally printed hardcover book. Add photos, record your voice or video for every question — so your grandchildren can one day hear your story in your own words.

Psalm 78 calls us to tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord — so that even children yet to be born will put their trust in God. My Faith Stories is a practical, beautiful way to answer that call.

"As I answered the questions, I got emotional being reminded of how much God has been at work in my life. My oldest son is now reading his copy and sharing his memories of those same moments with his wife — it's strengthened his walk with the Lord." — David

The Generations You'll Never Meet

Here's the long view: the faith legacy you build today doesn't stop with your grandchildren.

The grandchild who grows up knowing they were prayed for, loved without conditions, and shown what faith looks like in a real life — that grandchild becomes a parent. And then a grandparent.

The things you poured into them get poured into children you'll never hold and grandchildren you'll never meet while still here on earth.

That's what a legacy is. Not a monument. Not a name on a building. It's faith, love, and intention passed from one life to the next — across generations you can't see from here.

You have more influence than you know. Use it well.

Start now. Start small. Start faithful. That is your legacy.

And it can start with a single conversation. Find guidance in My Wish of All Wishes → — a beautifully illustrated book designed for grandparents to read one-on-one with grandchildren, carrying what may be your greatest hope of all: that your grandchild will be with you in eternity.

The book opens with a warm conversation about wishes and moves into a clear, age-appropriate presentation of the gospel. Inside the front cover is a dedication page to inscribe to your grandchild — a keepsake they'll keep long after the reading is done.

Legacy isn't only built over decades. Sometimes it's built in an afternoon, on a couch, with a book and a child who is listening.

With you on the journey,
Your Team at Legacy Coalition

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